Not Feeling like Yourself Lately?

Maybe something feels off. Nothing terribly dramatic or even able to be pinpointed. But if you pause long enough, you sense you’re not fully present in your own life anymore. Everything feels… fuzzier, heavier, and more lonely.

You’re tired, yet restless at the same time. Wanting desperately to do something, but not enough to actually do it. You’re disconnected and there isn’t one big thing to blame. Just a constant drift away from yourself.

You’re not alone. Many people are in this exact season: scattered attention, low energy, an inability to connect with the things that used to matter.

I’ve been there, and it still comes from time to time. It happens in the mornings when I struggle to care about what I am working on. In the afternoons when I am ready to quit with so much left to do. Nights when I realize I am living life out of habit, not my own by design.

Then comes that creeping sense of “Who am I, even?”—it’s quiet, but it’s real.

If this resonates, here’s something worth considering: you’re not broken, it’s your mind’s way of telling you something is out of balance. But what if this fog isn’t the problem? What if it’s the symptom?

What feels like lost energy could be unfocused energy. What feels like burnout might be a recentering opportunity. What feels like dissatisfaction might be your soul asking to remember who it is.

So what do I do when nothing feels right, but nothing is obviously wrong?

Pause and listen.

Over 10 years ago I came across a video by Vishen Lakhiani that offered three simple questions, and they’ve stuck with me ever since. Sometimes when I feel off course, foggy, disconnected, and uncertain I come back to these:

What do I want to experience?

How do I want to grow?

What do I want to contribute?

Here is a link to that video if you would like to check it out:

https://youtu.be/f8eU5Pc-y0g?si=hVYi-rJUBpU6XEs9

3 Most Important Questions Video by Vishen Lakhiani

This isn't a complicated exercise, it’s a quiet doorway back to yourself. It doesn’t require a journal, a new job, or a retreat in the woods. It just asks you to focus your mind on what matters to you. Not to others, but to you. These questions have to be answered by and for you.

Sometimes it’s the act of re-centering around our values where we can begin to feel again, moving in a direction that matters most to us… through the small things we choose to notice, to do, to prioritize.

Lately, one question has been especially helpful for me:

What percentage of my time is spent consuming vs. creating?

That hit something very deep for me. It might be the only reason this blog exists. I was consuming books, blogs, videos, courses, AppleTV shows, music… but not creating anything at all. 

We were made to create—something, anything. Even if it’s not for money or applause. Creating a conversation, a peaceful place, a note, a meal, a space to breathe. When the ratio skews too far toward consumption—whether it’s content, news, noise, or even obligation—it starts to suffocate the part of us that needs to express, to engage, to be in life, not just surrounded by it.

So if you haven’t felt like yourself lately, maybe that’s your next question. Not “How do I get back to who I was?” but “What’s one small thing I can do today that’s toward who I want to be?”

One small step toward what you value. One act of creation, contribution, or growth.

That’s how we return.

Not with noise and urgency, but with intention.

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